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Esta entrada es una fantasía y las imágenes son obtenidas de internet:
Hola a todos:
Hola a todos:
Me llamo Andrea, tengo 16 años (cumplo los 17 el 11 de octubre de este año 2018) y tengo que contar una historia bastante sorprendente.
Resulta que a los nueve años mi mamá me regaló un ordenata. Yo siempre he sido muy curiosa y con el empecé a investigar las cosas más raras y extrañas que encontré en Internet. Una de estas cosas fue el sadomasoquismo, aunque ahora se llama BDSM. Fue los tiempos de la publicación de la famosa novela 50 sombras de Grey. No leí la novela pues no tenía dinero para comprarla ni lugar para ocultarla ante unas inspección atenta de mamá. Mamá es madre soltera y soy hija única. Mamá es muy liberal pero no creí que tanto como para dejarme leer esta novela, por lo menos a tan tierna edad. Un día que estaba sola en casa investigué en su habitación y, al no encontrar nada, en el resto de la casa, incluso en la cocina y en los dos cuartos de baño. Además mamá no tiene ni caja fuerte ni ningún armario cerrado con llave. Así que llegué a la conclusión de que mamá no la había ni comprado ni leído. Pero yo quise aprender más, morbosa que era.
Un día encontré un enlace a una página que hablaba de las relaciones femdom o female domination. Básicamente consiste en que las mujeres convierten a sus maridos o esposos en sus esclavos. Este tema me interesaba mucho más que el asunto de la novela. La verdad es que no me gusta que me peguen. Prefiero pegar.
Empecé a obsesionarme con el asunto del femdom. Como mamá no se preocupaba por lo que veía en Internet, yo me hice un blog en tumblr (adorefemdom) y allí iba subiendo fotos, dibujos (como los de Sardax) y gifs animados con este asunto.
Pero el tema realmente empezó cuando tenía unos 12 años y medio. Era sábado por la tarde y mi madre me explicó cosas sobre el sexo. Por supuesto yo ya sabía como se hacían los niños pues me lo había explicado un par de años antes. Lo que me explicó es que la legislación española marca que a los 13 ya se puede tener sexo siempre que sea libremente consentido. Que antes de cumplir los trece, cualquier relación sexual es considerada como una violación, pero a partir de esa edad ya es posible tener sexo sin ningún impedimento legal. Mamá también me dijo que iba a hacerme pruebas para tomar anticonceptivos orales. Mi mamá es médico y como estáis, muy liberal en materia sexual. También me explicó más cosas sobre las violaciones, etc., pero esto no viene al caso.
¿Habéis visto que en los dibujos animados y en los comics cuando a un personaje se le ocurre una idea brillante aparece una bombilla encima de la cabeza del personaje en cuestión para ilustrar la idea que se le ocurrió? Eso mismo le pareció que me pasó a mí. Se me ocurrió de hablarle del femdom y de todo lo que yo había estado haciendo desde dos años antes. Y se lo conté.
Mi madre, aparte de médico y muy liberal en cuanto a lo que concierne al sexo, siempre ha estado interesada en que estuviéramos las dos muy juntas, en que nos contáramos todo la una a la otra. Siempre insistió en que no debían haber barreras entre nosotras dos. Y nunca las hubo. Yo había transgredido esta regla durante dos años ocultándole todo, pero ahora me sinceré. Se lo conté todo. Mamá alucinaba en colores. Pero más alucinó cuando le conté lo que quería de ella:
- Quiero un esclavo, le solté de sopetón. Tan fuerte fue la noticia que hasta se olvidó reñirme por no haberle contado lo de mi blog de femdom.
Una pausa de unos dos minutos que me parecieron horas fue la primera reacción de ella.
Yo estaba dispuesta a dar una vuelta más de tuerca:
- Y lo quiero para cuando cumpla trece años, para el día de mi cumpleaños.
Entonces mamá dijo:
- Para hacerme una idea de lo que pides, enséñame ese blog tuyo.
Nos plantamos las dos frente a la pantalla de su ordenador, pues tiene la pantalla más grande que el mío, abrí el navegador y tecleé la dirección de mi blog. Al principio miraba la pantalla asombrada pero poco después se le dibujaba una sonrisa pícara en la cara. Le pedí su opinión.
- Lo que más me gusta es la inversión de roles en la pareja, cuando ella le sodomiza o cuando le pone la jaulita de castidad. También cuando ella le viste de mujer. También me gusta cuando él le come el coño a ella, pero especialmente cuando ella vuelve a casa después de reunirse con su amante y el marido o novio le limpia el coño con su lengua. Esto particularmente me encanta.
Las dos estábamos más contentas que unas alegres castañuelas.
- ¿Y porque no buscamos un esclavo para cada una? Hace más de tres años que no te he visto nunca con ningún hombre.
- Si, es cierto, y no tengo más relaciones porque me aburren, porque todos los hombres me parecen lo mismo.
- Pues entonces con más motivo, mamá. Nos buscamos un par de tíos buenorros pero sumidos y obedientes. A ver, mami, como te gustaría que fuese el tuyo.
- Pues déjame que lo piense. Me gustaría que fuese joven, más joven que yo, que fuese delgado, blanco de piel, rubio o pelirrojo y de apariencia medio marica. Si, me gustaría así.
- Mis preferencias son más o menos las mismas. A mi me gustaría que fuese bickucold.
- ¿Bi qué?
- Que los dos, tanto él como yo, tuviéramos un amante, el mismo amante. Me encantaría ver a mi esclavo chupándole la polla a mi amante. ¿Que te parece?
- ¡Fantástico! A mi me gustaría vestirle con mis ropas, con bragas, sujetador, con un salto de cama erótico, al menos en casa.
- ¿Y porqué no lo hacemos?
- Estoy convencida que has estudiado la manera de conseguir dos esclavos, dijo mi madre riéndose a carcajadas.
- Si, pero antes te voy a enseñar una página de reddit llamada bicuckold.
Vimos la página y le gustó mucho a mamá.
- Nunca pensé que ver a dos hombres chupándose la polla pudiera ser erótico. Me encanta todo esto del femdom. Como sabes yo siempre he sido muy feminista y ahora me doy cuenta de que en realidad lo mejor para una mujer feminista es tener relaciones con un hombre sumiso. Es como una inversión de roles. Y además, es muy caliente, así que me voy a la ducha a refrescarme, dijo mamá riendo.
- Mamá, tienes que darte una ducha bien caliente y no una ducha fría, dije sonriendo. Lo que necesitas ahora es agua caliente para relajarte y tocarte un poquito por ahí abajo, ya sabes.
- Hija, cuanto sabes. ¿Donde has aprendido todo eso?
- Es mejor que te lleves a la ducha ese consolador que tienes escondido entre tu ropa interior para que yo no lo vea.
- ¡Increíble! No puedo tener nada escondido fuera de tu alcance!
- Bueno, Má, me pasó muchas horas en casa sola mientras tu trabajas. En algo tengo qu ocupar el tiempo además de hacer los deberes y chatear con las amigas.
Y mamá se fue al cuarto de baño.
Pero el tema realmente empezó cuando tenía unos 12 años y medio. Era sábado por la tarde y mi madre me explicó cosas sobre el sexo. Por supuesto yo ya sabía como se hacían los niños pues me lo había explicado un par de años antes. Lo que me explicó es que la legislación española marca que a los 13 ya se puede tener sexo siempre que sea libremente consentido. Que antes de cumplir los trece, cualquier relación sexual es considerada como una violación, pero a partir de esa edad ya es posible tener sexo sin ningún impedimento legal. Mamá también me dijo que iba a hacerme pruebas para tomar anticonceptivos orales. Mi mamá es médico y como estáis, muy liberal en materia sexual. También me explicó más cosas sobre las violaciones, etc., pero esto no viene al caso.
¿Habéis visto que en los dibujos animados y en los comics cuando a un personaje se le ocurre una idea brillante aparece una bombilla encima de la cabeza del personaje en cuestión para ilustrar la idea que se le ocurrió? Eso mismo le pareció que me pasó a mí. Se me ocurrió de hablarle del femdom y de todo lo que yo había estado haciendo desde dos años antes. Y se lo conté.
Mi madre, aparte de médico y muy liberal en cuanto a lo que concierne al sexo, siempre ha estado interesada en que estuviéramos las dos muy juntas, en que nos contáramos todo la una a la otra. Siempre insistió en que no debían haber barreras entre nosotras dos. Y nunca las hubo. Yo había transgredido esta regla durante dos años ocultándole todo, pero ahora me sinceré. Se lo conté todo. Mamá alucinaba en colores. Pero más alucinó cuando le conté lo que quería de ella:
- Quiero un esclavo, le solté de sopetón. Tan fuerte fue la noticia que hasta se olvidó reñirme por no haberle contado lo de mi blog de femdom.
Una pausa de unos dos minutos que me parecieron horas fue la primera reacción de ella.
Yo estaba dispuesta a dar una vuelta más de tuerca:
- Y lo quiero para cuando cumpla trece años, para el día de mi cumpleaños.
Entonces mamá dijo:
- Para hacerme una idea de lo que pides, enséñame ese blog tuyo.
Nos plantamos las dos frente a la pantalla de su ordenador, pues tiene la pantalla más grande que el mío, abrí el navegador y tecleé la dirección de mi blog. Al principio miraba la pantalla asombrada pero poco después se le dibujaba una sonrisa pícara en la cara. Le pedí su opinión.
- Lo que más me gusta es la inversión de roles en la pareja, cuando ella le sodomiza o cuando le pone la jaulita de castidad. También cuando ella le viste de mujer. También me gusta cuando él le come el coño a ella, pero especialmente cuando ella vuelve a casa después de reunirse con su amante y el marido o novio le limpia el coño con su lengua. Esto particularmente me encanta.
Las dos estábamos más contentas que unas alegres castañuelas.
- ¿Y porque no buscamos un esclavo para cada una? Hace más de tres años que no te he visto nunca con ningún hombre.
- Si, es cierto, y no tengo más relaciones porque me aburren, porque todos los hombres me parecen lo mismo.
- Pues entonces con más motivo, mamá. Nos buscamos un par de tíos buenorros pero sumidos y obedientes. A ver, mami, como te gustaría que fuese el tuyo.
- Pues déjame que lo piense. Me gustaría que fuese joven, más joven que yo, que fuese delgado, blanco de piel, rubio o pelirrojo y de apariencia medio marica. Si, me gustaría así.
- Mis preferencias son más o menos las mismas. A mi me gustaría que fuese bickucold.
- ¿Bi qué?
- Que los dos, tanto él como yo, tuviéramos un amante, el mismo amante. Me encantaría ver a mi esclavo chupándole la polla a mi amante. ¿Que te parece?
- ¡Fantástico! A mi me gustaría vestirle con mis ropas, con bragas, sujetador, con un salto de cama erótico, al menos en casa.
- ¿Y porqué no lo hacemos?
- Estoy convencida que has estudiado la manera de conseguir dos esclavos, dijo mi madre riéndose a carcajadas.
- Si, pero antes te voy a enseñar una página de reddit llamada bicuckold.
- Nunca pensé que ver a dos hombres chupándose la polla pudiera ser erótico. Me encanta todo esto del femdom. Como sabes yo siempre he sido muy feminista y ahora me doy cuenta de que en realidad lo mejor para una mujer feminista es tener relaciones con un hombre sumiso. Es como una inversión de roles. Y además, es muy caliente, así que me voy a la ducha a refrescarme, dijo mamá riendo.
- Mamá, tienes que darte una ducha bien caliente y no una ducha fría, dije sonriendo. Lo que necesitas ahora es agua caliente para relajarte y tocarte un poquito por ahí abajo, ya sabes.
- Hija, cuanto sabes. ¿Donde has aprendido todo eso?
- Es mejor que te lleves a la ducha ese consolador que tienes escondido entre tu ropa interior para que yo no lo vea.
- ¡Increíble! No puedo tener nada escondido fuera de tu alcance!
- Bueno, Má, me pasó muchas horas en casa sola mientras tu trabajas. En algo tengo qu ocupar el tiempo además de hacer los deberes y chatear con las amigas.
Y mamá se fue al cuarto de baño.
viernes, 18 de mayo de 2018
miércoles, 16 de mayo de 2018
lunes, 30 de abril de 2018
Lora
Todo empezó en Londres en 2008. En realidad todo empezó unos tres años antes, cuando tenía quince. Tenía en mi habitación un ordenador con conexión a internet. Lo coloqué no de cara a la ventana y de espaldas a la puerta, sino al revés, para que cuando entrara mi madre, que nunca llamaba antes de entrar, no viera la pantalla. De este modo podía navegar por donde quisiera sin problemas con tan solo hacer un click y cambiar de pantalla.
Recuerdo que una amiga me mandó un mail con fotos adjuntas de chicas vestidas maltratando a unos chicos desnudos y una palabra que cambió mi vida: femdom.
Me volví adicta a este estilo de vida. Creé tres blogs en tres plataformas diferentes y subía y compartía fotos y vídeos de esta temática. Pensé en crear una página web sobre el tema, pero estudiaba bastante duro y no tenía tiempo para ello.
Pasaron tres años y cumplí los 18 años en julio de 2008. Y aquí tengo que explicar algo sobre mi familia que viene al caso. Mi padre es español y mi madre británica. Y ambos vienen de familias ricas. Ya sabéis: el dinero llama al dinero.
Yo quería estudiar en Londres, y mis padres me lo permitieron. Hablo los dos idiomas completamente igual e indistintamente.
Antes de empezar mi historia, falta presentarme a mi misma: me llamo Laura y aunque en los dos idiomas se escribe igual, en inglés se pronuncia algo así como Lora.
Tarjeta de crédito en riste, contacté con tres chicos a través de una web de contactos sexuales. Los dos primeros no me gustaron mucho y ya estaba un poco desilusionada cuando conocí a Albert. Este chico era muy apuesto, algo parecido a Brad Pitt, delgado, alto y bastante rubio. No podía encontrar otro más guapo.
Primero chateé con él durante unos días, después le cité en una cafetería y por fin me lo llevé a casa no sin antes preguntarle si quería ser mi esclavo. Albert es ingeniero y actualmente gana unos 3.200 libras esterlinas. Aún así, compartía un piso con otro chico pues los alquileres en Londres son muy caros. Me dijo que no tenía ningún problema en dejar el piso en cuanto quisiera pues estaba haciendo un favor a su compañero de piso pero no tenía nada firmado con él. Le cité en una cafetería para conocerle personalmente. Y aunque no viene a cuento, el alquiler de mi piso costaba 3.000 libras al mes, casi tanto como su salario. Después de charlar sobre su vida durante una hora, me decidí a que Albert fuera mi esclavo. Le pregunté:
- Mira Albert, yo creo que hemos hablado mucho, quizá demasiado. Te pregunto ya directamente: "¿Quieres ser mi esclavo?"
- Por supuesto que si. Ni en sueños pensaba tener un ama tan bella como tu.
Frecuentemente me alaba sobre mi belleza. Me he convencido que no es un cumplido artificial, pues me lo repite muchas veces. Yo sé perfectamente que soy bastante guapa, incluso sexy cuando quiero, pero no tanto como para alabarme mucho.
Fuimos en taxi a mi casa. Mientras subíamos en el ascensor, nos mirábamos y sonreíamos los dos nerviosos. Realmente para mi era una aventura llevar a un desconocido a mi piso.
Nada más entrar en mi piso le ordené que se desnudara. Albert estaba muy nervioso y se aturrulló cuando mientras se desnudaba y se hizo un lío con los cordones de las zapatillas deportivas que llevaba y se retrasó más de la cuenta. Este hecho insignificante me hizo darme cuenta que Albert no era más que un pobre hombre insignificante. Cuando le interrogué sobre su vida ya me confesó que era virgen. Esto me dio pie a asegurarle que no le garantizaba que conmigo dejaría de serlo. En realidad Albert era lo que se llama un nerd, un lumbreras con muy pocas relaciones sociales.
Cuando se desnudó hice que me acompañara a la cristalera. En realidad el salón comedor no tenía ventana, sino un paño fijo de cristal desde el suelo hasta el techo. Tan solo la cortina impedía que los extraños vieran lo que pasaba en el interior. Pulsé el botón que ponía en marcha el motor que ponía en marcha las cortinas, que se abrieron. Inmediatamente y como un acto reflejo, Albert se tapó sus con ambas manos. Le ordené que pusiera las manos a los costados.
- ¿Ves esa pequeña tienda pequeña de enfrente? Saca un billete de tu cartera y vas a bajar corriendo por la escalera a toda velocidad hasta la acera, cruzas la calle y me compras una lata de cerveza de medio litro. Cualquiera. No me interesa exactamente cual. La que veas mas a mano. Y después cruzas a toda velocidad y vuelves a subir la escalera hasta aquí. No sé si te habrás dado cuenta pero yo vivo en un sexto. Cuando vuelvas yo estaré en el rellano y quiero verte subir la escalera a toda velocidad y jadeando. Si no pasas la prueba, ya te puedes ir a tu casa.
- ¿Quieres decir que haga todo eso desnudo?
- Exactamente.
Le acompañé hasta el rellano y le di una palmada en el culo todo lo fuerte que pude. Inmediatamente se puso en marcha a toda velocidad y yo me fuí corriendo hasta el ventanal y pocos segundos después lo vi corriendo en pelotas cruzando la calle sin importarle si un coche le podía atropellar. Le vi entrar en la tienda y salir un minuto después, cruzar la calle otra vez y desparecer de mi vista. Salí de nuevo al rellano de la escalera y subir jadeando las escaleras a toda velocidad.
Era un sábado por la tarde lluvioso y frío de finales de noviembre. La temperatura en la calle debía ser de unos 10°. No cronometré el tiempo, pero no debió tardar más de cinco minutos como máximo, y pasó la mitad del tiempo o quizás un poco más dentro de la tienda. Sus jadeos no eran fingidos.
Tarjeta de crédito en riste, contacté con tres chicos a través de una web de contactos sexuales. Los dos primeros no me gustaron mucho y ya estaba un poco desilusionada cuando conocí a Albert. Este chico era muy apuesto, algo parecido a Brad Pitt, delgado, alto y bastante rubio. No podía encontrar otro más guapo.
Primero chateé con él durante unos días, después le cité en una cafetería y por fin me lo llevé a casa no sin antes preguntarle si quería ser mi esclavo. Albert es ingeniero y actualmente gana unos 3.200 libras esterlinas. Aún así, compartía un piso con otro chico pues los alquileres en Londres son muy caros. Me dijo que no tenía ningún problema en dejar el piso en cuanto quisiera pues estaba haciendo un favor a su compañero de piso pero no tenía nada firmado con él. Le cité en una cafetería para conocerle personalmente. Y aunque no viene a cuento, el alquiler de mi piso costaba 3.000 libras al mes, casi tanto como su salario. Después de charlar sobre su vida durante una hora, me decidí a que Albert fuera mi esclavo. Le pregunté:
- Mira Albert, yo creo que hemos hablado mucho, quizá demasiado. Te pregunto ya directamente: "¿Quieres ser mi esclavo?"
- Por supuesto que si. Ni en sueños pensaba tener un ama tan bella como tu.
Frecuentemente me alaba sobre mi belleza. Me he convencido que no es un cumplido artificial, pues me lo repite muchas veces. Yo sé perfectamente que soy bastante guapa, incluso sexy cuando quiero, pero no tanto como para alabarme mucho.
Fuimos en taxi a mi casa. Mientras subíamos en el ascensor, nos mirábamos y sonreíamos los dos nerviosos. Realmente para mi era una aventura llevar a un desconocido a mi piso.
Nada más entrar en mi piso le ordené que se desnudara. Albert estaba muy nervioso y se aturrulló cuando mientras se desnudaba y se hizo un lío con los cordones de las zapatillas deportivas que llevaba y se retrasó más de la cuenta. Este hecho insignificante me hizo darme cuenta que Albert no era más que un pobre hombre insignificante. Cuando le interrogué sobre su vida ya me confesó que era virgen. Esto me dio pie a asegurarle que no le garantizaba que conmigo dejaría de serlo. En realidad Albert era lo que se llama un nerd, un lumbreras con muy pocas relaciones sociales.
Cuando se desnudó hice que me acompañara a la cristalera. En realidad el salón comedor no tenía ventana, sino un paño fijo de cristal desde el suelo hasta el techo. Tan solo la cortina impedía que los extraños vieran lo que pasaba en el interior. Pulsé el botón que ponía en marcha el motor que ponía en marcha las cortinas, que se abrieron. Inmediatamente y como un acto reflejo, Albert se tapó sus con ambas manos. Le ordené que pusiera las manos a los costados.
- ¿Ves esa pequeña tienda pequeña de enfrente? Saca un billete de tu cartera y vas a bajar corriendo por la escalera a toda velocidad hasta la acera, cruzas la calle y me compras una lata de cerveza de medio litro. Cualquiera. No me interesa exactamente cual. La que veas mas a mano. Y después cruzas a toda velocidad y vuelves a subir la escalera hasta aquí. No sé si te habrás dado cuenta pero yo vivo en un sexto. Cuando vuelvas yo estaré en el rellano y quiero verte subir la escalera a toda velocidad y jadeando. Si no pasas la prueba, ya te puedes ir a tu casa.
- ¿Quieres decir que haga todo eso desnudo?
- Exactamente.
Le acompañé hasta el rellano y le di una palmada en el culo todo lo fuerte que pude. Inmediatamente se puso en marcha a toda velocidad y yo me fuí corriendo hasta el ventanal y pocos segundos después lo vi corriendo en pelotas cruzando la calle sin importarle si un coche le podía atropellar. Le vi entrar en la tienda y salir un minuto después, cruzar la calle otra vez y desparecer de mi vista. Salí de nuevo al rellano de la escalera y subir jadeando las escaleras a toda velocidad.
Era un sábado por la tarde lluvioso y frío de finales de noviembre. La temperatura en la calle debía ser de unos 10°. No cronometré el tiempo, pero no debió tardar más de cinco minutos como máximo, y pasó la mitad del tiempo o quizás un poco más dentro de la tienda. Sus jadeos no eran fingidos.
sábado, 31 de marzo de 2018
La castidad es para parejas (traducción)
TRADUCCIÓN DE CHASTITY IS FOR COUPLES.
http://allaboutfemdom.blogspot.com.ar/2018/03/chastity-is-for-couples.html?zx=9a220bf1290f8cf0
http://allaboutfemdom.blogspot.com.ar/2018/03/chastity-is-for-couples.html?zx=9a220bf1290f8cf0
Está bien. La castidad masculina no es solo para hombres, ni tampoco para mujeres que quieren controlar a sus maridos. ¡La castidad masculina es para parejas! Tanto el varón sumiso como su pareja pueden ganar al incorporar la castidad masculina a su relación. La relación como un todo obtiene una gran ventaja también.
Si eres una mujer cuya pareja ha estando hablándole de incorporar la castidad masculina a su relación, pero tiene dudas, déjame ponértelo fácil. Primero de todo, debes relajarte. Sé que puedes tener inquietudes, problemas, y si, incluso una cierta cantidad de miedo. Tomar el control de tu familia (Female Led Relationship) puede ser una tarea desalentadora. Pero no es de eso de lo que te estoy hablando aquí.
De lo que te estoy hablando es de un pequeño aspecto de vuestra relación. El sexo. Al utilizar un artilugio de castidad de cualquier tipo estás dando el primer paso para controlar a tu pareja. Él puede estar o no interesado en la idea. Si él es uno de aquellos que te acercó al tema de la castidad masculina, entonces ya tienes la mitad de tu trabajo hecho. En el otro lado, si la idea es tuya, puede que tengas que incorporar un poco de calor y negación para obtener lo que quieres. No temas, funcionará.
En ambos casos, el primer paso es ponerse de acuerdo ambos de darle la oportunidad a la castidad masculina. Sentaos a la mesa de la cocina y hablad del tema. ¿Por qué la mesa de la cocina? Porque es el lugar donde podéis confortables y relajados. Es un terreno neutral para hablar de las posibilidades, los beneficios para ambos (que cubriremos en una entrada posterior). Acostumbraos a la idea. No trates de empujar a tu pareja. Deja a él o a ella que lo mediten, que haga alguna investigación por su cuenta. Deja pasar unos días para que acepte la idea y entonces sentaos de nuevo y hablad.
Si eres una mujer cuya pareja ha estando hablándole de incorporar la castidad masculina a su relación, pero tiene dudas, déjame ponértelo fácil. Primero de todo, debes relajarte. Sé que puedes tener inquietudes, problemas, y si, incluso una cierta cantidad de miedo. Tomar el control de tu familia (Female Led Relationship) puede ser una tarea desalentadora. Pero no es de eso de lo que te estoy hablando aquí.
De lo que te estoy hablando es de un pequeño aspecto de vuestra relación. El sexo. Al utilizar un artilugio de castidad de cualquier tipo estás dando el primer paso para controlar a tu pareja. Él puede estar o no interesado en la idea. Si él es uno de aquellos que te acercó al tema de la castidad masculina, entonces ya tienes la mitad de tu trabajo hecho. En el otro lado, si la idea es tuya, puede que tengas que incorporar un poco de calor y negación para obtener lo que quieres. No temas, funcionará.
En ambos casos, el primer paso es ponerse de acuerdo ambos de darle la oportunidad a la castidad masculina. Sentaos a la mesa de la cocina y hablad del tema. ¿Por qué la mesa de la cocina? Porque es el lugar donde podéis confortables y relajados. Es un terreno neutral para hablar de las posibilidades, los beneficios para ambos (que cubriremos en una entrada posterior). Acostumbraos a la idea. No trates de empujar a tu pareja. Deja a él o a ella que lo mediten, que haga alguna investigación por su cuenta. Deja pasar unos días para que acepte la idea y entonces sentaos de nuevo y hablad.
Chastity is for couples
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That’s right. Male chastity is not just for men, nor is it just for women who want to control their men. Male chastity is for couples! Both the submissive male and his partner stand to gain from incorporating male chastity into the relationship. The relationship as a whole stands a great deal to gain as well.
If you are the female whose partner has been talking to her about incorporating male chastity into your relationship, but you have reservations, let me put you at ease. First of all, you should relax. I know you may have concerns, issues, and yes. Even a certain amount of fear. Taking total control of your family (Female Led Relationship) can be a daunting task. But that’s not what I am talking about here.
All I am talking about is taking control of one small aspect of your relationship. The sex. By utilizing a chastity device of some kind, you are taking the first step toward controlling your partner. He may or may not be keen on the idea. If he is the one who approached you about male chastity, then half your job is done. On the other hand, if this is your idea, you may have to incorporate a little tease and denial to get what you want. Never fear, it will work.
Anyway, the first step is for you both to agree to give male chastity a try. Sit down at your kitchen table to discuss it. Why the kitchen table? Simply because it is a place where you can both feel comfortable and relaxed. It’s neutral ground, so to speak. Talk about the possibilities. The benefits to both of you (we will cover those in an upcoming post). Get used to the idea. Don’t try to push anything on your partner. Let him or her think about it, maybe do some research on their own. Give it a few days to sink in and then sit down and talk again.
The hardest part is being open and honest with your partner. But this is paramount. If you are not totally honest about your feelings, then you are doomed to fail. Don’t be afraid to talk openly. Remember, this is the person who has seen you naked many, many times. This is the person who knows your strengths, your weaknesses, and your vulnerabilities. If you can’t be open and honest with him or her, then what chance does your relationship have, anyway?
If you can both agree to give male chastity a chance, then be realistic about it. Start out slow and easy. Don’t plan on more than a month or even a week for a trial period. Decide in advance when and how many orgasms will be permitted for the male during this trial period. Even who can decide when they will be permitted. Remember, this is just a trial period. If you don’t like it, don’t get any enjoyment from it, don’t see how it can improve your relationship, then you can always quit.
There are many different chastity devices on the market. Everything from cheap Chinese knock-offs of the most popular brands to complete customized chastity belts costing several hundred dollars. I will only cover the those that I feel are the most reasonable for those just starting out.
Before we begin, let me state that a chastity device is a very personal choice. What one couples likes may not be the best choice for the couple next door. There are a great number of things that need to be taken into consideration, such as penis size (when flaccid), the amount and type of exercise your guy gets, travel, and overall comfort. It may take some experimentation to find exactly the right device for you and your guy.
Lets begin with the most popular, the CB-x000 series which includes the CB-6000, the CB-6000s, the CB-3000, the Curve, and (if you can still find one) the CB-2000, all of which are made by A.L. Enterprises, Inc. ( cb-x.com ).
All of these chastity devices are made of acrylic and are welded together at the center. They come with a variety of base-ring sizes so you don’t have to worry about ordering a particular size. However, the CB-6000s was released to accommodate those with a slightly smaller penis than average. They do NOT make one for the extra large penis, however. They also offer a set of “spikes” called “Points of Intrigue” which dig into the top-base of the penis should it attempt get hard. There are three different lengths of spikes included with each set. Personally, I think they are over-priced at $45us per set. But they DO work well!
I don’t recommend the Chinese knock-offs because they are usually NOT made of acrylic.
Pros: Well made.
Reasonably priced.
No measuring required.
Spikes are available.
Cons: They can break.
Spikes are an expensive addition.
Cause a visible pant-bulge.
To avoid breaking, most people will choose to go with a metal device. There are several different styles to choose from. Mature Metal ( maturemetal.com ) will custom build any of their chastity devices to fit the way you want your chastity device to fit. They offer several designs. You can get spikes with some models, but not all, for an additional charge. Of course, being customized, these chastity devices will cost you a little more. But if fit is important to you, this might be the way to go.
There are other customizing companies out there, but Mature Metal seems to have the best customer relations and best way to insure proper fitting BEFORE you buy. So if you are looking for a custom fit, Mature Metal is the way to go.
Pros: Customized to fit properly the first time.
Steel construction won’t break.
Spikes available.
Cons: Can cause a pant-bulge.
Fairly expensive.
Long wait because of customizing.
There are many companies that make standardized devices out of steel. However, many do not use surgical stainless steel and those models will often corrode and/or cause irritation. Be VERY careful in selecting one of these.
However, if purchase from a reputable company, you can often save a great deal of money because they usually only come in one or two sizes. The nice part is that you can get quite a large variety of styles. Some have urethra catheters (usually removable) just in case you are feeling extra sadistic. Some brands offer some kind of spikes that can be included or not, depending on your mood. Some of these spikes are quite sharp and may even bring a little blood on occasion. So, I would recommend filing them down just enough to remove the sharp tip. They will still be effective.
Pros: Inexpensive.
Many different choices.
Optional catheter.
Cons: Spikes can be too sharp, requiring filing.
Limited sizes available.
Difficult to judge quality of steel.
Usually cause a large pant-bulge.
Airport security.
There are a couple of companies making male chastity devices out of pure silicone. These stretch to fit snugly and are usually make from one piece. So there are not little parts to lose, no sizes to worry about. The most famous of these devices is the “Birdlocked” ( birdlocked.com ) which can be bought with spikes in the head of the device. Most devices put the spikes along the penile shaft. But the spikes are NOT removable and you would have to purchase more than one device if you didn’t want the spikes always there.
While silicone is a nice stretchy material, it does not breath well. It fits very snugly and may not prevent an erection as much as a harder material would. However, because of its elasticity, one size will fit everyone. The Birdlocked comes in three size, getting the right one can be a matter of trial and error. In spite of what the manufacturers might have intended, these devices often do cause a bit of pant-bulge, but not as much as their steel or acrylic counterparts. All in all, the silicone devices are not as popular as many other devices. Why, I don’t know. They seems to do well.
Pros: One size always fits.
Smaller pant-bulge.
Cons: No removable spikes.
Not as comfortable as other devices.
Does not breath well.
In all my research into male chastity devices, I have never run into a device as perfect as this one. It is made by Novamédia of Sweden. The HolyTrainer ( holytrainer.com ) is unique among male chastity devices in that it is made from a bio-sourced resin (plants) that is extremely strong. It has the unique property of becoming ply-able when heated. The HolyTrainer is formed without seams which means it won’t break where most plastic and acrylic devices break. At normal room temperature is is very strong, but when heated normal body temperature (such as when you wear it) it becomes somewhat soft and will become quite comfortable.
The material used and the unique design of this device make it ideal for travel. It does NOT require the usual pad lock and the only (tiny) metal piece used for locking the device in place does NOT set off airport metal detectors. If your guy travels a lot, this will be a really big plus! The base ring is also made of the same bio-sourced resin and will form-fit itself your guy’s body the first time he wears it. The HolyTrainer comes in two sizes (like the CB-6000) for those smaller than normal guys. However, not only does the device NOT produce a pant-bulge, it is extremely comfortable to wear even while riding a bicycle. I am told (by a reliable source) that is the most comfortable device on the market. (Believe me, we have tried them all!) While it does not have any provision for adding spikes, it can be worn 24/7 removing it only for a thorough cleaning once a week (recommended for ANY device!)
Pros: Reasonably priced.
Comfortable.
No pant-bulge.
Less apt to break.
No problem when traveling.
48 hour delivery (believe it or not)!
Cons: No spikes.
All in all, the best device I have ever tested! I would strongly recommend the HolyTrainer as your number one choice for a male chastity device. If you heat it in hot water, it can be molded to fit any penis. Put it on your guy, have him take a hot shower, and the device will mold itself to come extremely comfortable.
Once you have your chastity device, you should engage in a brief test period. You should put it on him. Let him wear it for a day, then check to make sure there are no major problems. That is, make sure it doesn’t pinch him or chaff him anywhere. If it does, try to correct the problem. You may also have to wait a few days for him heal before testing it again.
To prevent chaffing, use a good lubrication on his penis before putting it back on. Most water-based lubes will dry out too quickly. I suggest a oil-based or silicone-based lubricant. (Johnson & Johnson makes a Baby Oil Gel that works well for this.) If chaffing still occurs, you may have to resort to a different chastity device. Once he can get through a day without any problems, try it for twenty-four hours. If all goes well, try three days this time.
Once you have a device that he can comfortably wear day after day, be sure to clean and inspect it (yourself) at least once a week. Taking a shower together is good way to do this, but by all means, not the only way. The device does not need to be removed for cleaning. Use a liberal amount of soap and water to clean his penis every few days. Remember, he probably can’t see it well enough to clean it himself, so you inspect it for him. This can be part of the teasing process as well.
Don’t let him (or anyone else) tell you that he needs to have an orgasm to prevent any kind of disease. He doesn’t! I checked with more than one doctor on that, so trust me. He can easily go for a week, a month, even six months or a year without having an orgasm. When the sperm in the body gets old, it will be released inside the body and will be quickly absorbed by the rest of the body. All this happens without him even knowing about it.
Blue-balls is something that is vastly misunderstood as well. Blue-balls is a condition that occurs when a man gets frequently aroused, but does not have an ejaculation for a long period of time. How long depends on the individual and the amount of arousal. What happens is this: He gets aroused and his body (testicles in particular) begin producing sperm (or fluids for feeding and transporting the sperm (in the case of a vasectomy) along the urethra for eventual ejaculation. If that ejaculation does not occur, there is a build up these things in the body (particularly the balls). This may cause him to feel a slight aching in the groin (or balls) when he gets his next erection (or tries to). It is harmless. It’s all a part of the game.
After a few weeks of not getting have an orgasm, his body will limit the amount of sperm etc. that it produces and the effects of blue-balls will go away. (No more groin pain.) So you see, blue-balls is nothing to be concerned about. In fact, you may take some joy in the fact that he gets them. After all, it’s just another reminder that he is yours and is not allowed to cum without your permission…
This is one area where many women have trouble. Learning to be in charge when you have spent your whole life expecting your partner to be in charge is not always easy. Some women are more assertive than others. But that is really all it takes. Whether your guy approached you about this whole chastity thing or it was all your idea, makes no difference here. Being in charge is really not as difficult as some people believe.
If you had a ten year old child who didn’t always do what you want him/her to do the first time you told them, what would you do? You would tell them again in a firmer tone of voice. Correct? Well, it is really no different here. If you start out being firm, and by that I mean don’t allow him to talk his way out of anything, then you should have no trouble keeping things under control.
You need to adopt a firm stance on things. If you tell him to vacuum the living room carpet and he starts making excuses why he can’t do it, then get firm. Don’t allow him to weasel his way out of it. The firmer you are, especially when just starting out, the less trouble you will have later on. You don’t have to yell or scream. You don’t even have to get angry. Stay calm and insist that he obey you. There are numerous ways to convince him to comply with your every wish, but we will get to that later. For now, just try to be firm. Don’t take “No” for an answer.
When starting out, don’t “ask” him to do anything… Tell him! Don’t say, “Please,” say, “Do it!” Chances are, in the beginning, he will be quite willing to complete any task you set before him, especially if he initially approached you about chastity. You can expect him to defy you in one way or another during the first few weeks. He is testing you. He is testing your resolve and your ability be in charge. Once you realize that is all he is doing, then you will have no trouble enforcing your rules. If you stand your ground, he will back down. After all, you hold the key to his sexual release. And there is no reason you can’t remind him of that.
And that is all there is to being in charge. Set your mind to it, and never back down.
As I said in my last post, you can expect to have your authority tested, in one way or another. It’s not so much a challenge to your authority as it is a test of your resolve. Be prepared. Don’t back down.
The best way to maintain discipline (in my opinion) is through a good reward program. This doesn’t need to be anything formal (or even written down), but you should keep track so that you can keep a check on yourself, as well as your guy. Yes, you need to keep track of the rewards you give him. Why? Because it is too easy to slip into a complacency in which you don’t do your part. That is, you don’t give him the rewards he deserves. So get yourself a note book, or one of those journals you can use like a diary. Write down EVERY thing he does for you and the reward you gave him for it.
So what is a good reward system? Fondling him through his clothing can be a reward. Letting him please you sexually can be a reward. But the best rewards of all are those times when you take the time to tease him sexually even if he will not get to have an orgasm. If you truly want your relationship to prosper and flourish, you need a good reward system in place. The more attention (yes, sexual attention) you give your guy, the better the system will work. Every man’s goal, not just a chaste man, is to receive sexual gratification. By locking him in chastity, you have removed every other kind of sexual gratification he could get BEFORE you locked him up. Now, the only thing he gets is what you chose to give him. That is why I have always said, “You can’t tease him too much.” He will enjoy it even if all you do is hug him, squeeze his balls or bottom, kiss his cheek and tell him that he is doing a great job.
However, you really should plan on at least one long (sixty minutes or more) tease session a week. You could tease him two or three times a week for thirty minutes each, and that would be even better. The more time you spend each week with him laying naked on the bed while you “play” with his body, the more he will appreciate it, and you. But it’s really all those short little teases you give him on a daily basis that keep him coming back for more. That means he will be better behaved. The minute he thinks you are taking all his hard work for granted, he will begin to doubt your ability to lead. Don’t let that happen!
Now, about those tests… Whenever he slips up, fails to do as you require, or even smarts off, it is time to implement the other half of the Reward/Punishment system. Punishment can range from a simple scolding, to a severe paddling, or anything in between. You can make him stand in the corner, balance a book on his head, or even wear a pair of clothespins on his nipples for ten minutes. It doesn’t matter what the punishment is as long as the severity fits the crime.
One of the best punishments I know of is adding time until his next orgasm. The key to this type of punishment is not placing his orgasm so far in the future that a few days one way or the other won’t matter. If you try to keep his orgasm within thirty days from today, you will be doing well. One way of doing that is to set a date in the near future, say… Two weeks away. Mark it on the calendar with a an “O” so that he can see it and he can count the days. Now each time he does something to displease you, you can cross it off and move it the appropriate number of days. (See the photo above.)
As you can see, as long as you can keep moving the expected release date, he will have something to shoot for, but he may never actually reach that day. It is a form of teasing as well as a form of punishment. Of course, you can give him an orgasm any time you want. Maybe he deserves a reward for going above and beyond what you expected and has earned a big reward. No one says you can’t give him one anytime you like. But the system above allows you to create an ever increasing time between orgasms without him even realizing what is happening.
Yes, you can make up reasons for moving the release date, if you like. For example, “Thursday is not a good day for me, let’s move it to the weekend.” Or, “Your birthday is coming up in a couple of weeks, why don’t we just hold off until then?” Perfectly good reasons to move his release date down the line without moving it too far. I know one woman who actually made her husband wait an entire year using this method of reward and punishment. She simply kept moving the date a few days at a time. Her husband was always less than two weeks away from his release date and never got upset when it got moved. She kept him happy by giving him lots of sexual attention (or taking some for herself) and he just never realized how long it had been since his last orgasm because he was focused on the next one.
There you have it. Life is good. If your man is in chastity, life can be great! All you have to do is take charge and tease the hell out of him, and have fun doing it!
If you are the female whose partner has been talking to her about incorporating male chastity into your relationship, but you have reservations, let me put you at ease. First of all, you should relax. I know you may have concerns, issues, and yes. Even a certain amount of fear. Taking total control of your family (Female Led Relationship) can be a daunting task. But that’s not what I am talking about here.
All I am talking about is taking control of one small aspect of your relationship. The sex. By utilizing a chastity device of some kind, you are taking the first step toward controlling your partner. He may or may not be keen on the idea. If he is the one who approached you about male chastity, then half your job is done. On the other hand, if this is your idea, you may have to incorporate a little tease and denial to get what you want. Never fear, it will work.
Anyway, the first step is for you both to agree to give male chastity a try. Sit down at your kitchen table to discuss it. Why the kitchen table? Simply because it is a place where you can both feel comfortable and relaxed. It’s neutral ground, so to speak. Talk about the possibilities. The benefits to both of you (we will cover those in an upcoming post). Get used to the idea. Don’t try to push anything on your partner. Let him or her think about it, maybe do some research on their own. Give it a few days to sink in and then sit down and talk again.
The hardest part is being open and honest with your partner. But this is paramount. If you are not totally honest about your feelings, then you are doomed to fail. Don’t be afraid to talk openly. Remember, this is the person who has seen you naked many, many times. This is the person who knows your strengths, your weaknesses, and your vulnerabilities. If you can’t be open and honest with him or her, then what chance does your relationship have, anyway?
If you can both agree to give male chastity a chance, then be realistic about it. Start out slow and easy. Don’t plan on more than a month or even a week for a trial period. Decide in advance when and how many orgasms will be permitted for the male during this trial period. Even who can decide when they will be permitted. Remember, this is just a trial period. If you don’t like it, don’t get any enjoyment from it, don’t see how it can improve your relationship, then you can always quit.
How to select a chastity device.
There are many different chastity devices on the market. Everything from cheap Chinese knock-offs of the most popular brands to complete customized chastity belts costing several hundred dollars. I will only cover the those that I feel are the most reasonable for those just starting out.
Before we begin, let me state that a chastity device is a very personal choice. What one couples likes may not be the best choice for the couple next door. There are a great number of things that need to be taken into consideration, such as penis size (when flaccid), the amount and type of exercise your guy gets, travel, and overall comfort. It may take some experimentation to find exactly the right device for you and your guy.
CB-x000 Series.
All of these chastity devices are made of acrylic and are welded together at the center. They come with a variety of base-ring sizes so you don’t have to worry about ordering a particular size. However, the CB-6000s was released to accommodate those with a slightly smaller penis than average. They do NOT make one for the extra large penis, however. They also offer a set of “spikes” called “Points of Intrigue” which dig into the top-base of the penis should it attempt get hard. There are three different lengths of spikes included with each set. Personally, I think they are over-priced at $45us per set. But they DO work well!
I don’t recommend the Chinese knock-offs because they are usually NOT made of acrylic.
Pros: Well made.
Reasonably priced.
No measuring required.
Spikes are available.
Cons: They can break.
Spikes are an expensive addition.
Cause a visible pant-bulge.
Customized Steel.
There are other customizing companies out there, but Mature Metal seems to have the best customer relations and best way to insure proper fitting BEFORE you buy. So if you are looking for a custom fit, Mature Metal is the way to go.
Pros: Customized to fit properly the first time.
Steel construction won’t break.
Spikes available.
Cons: Can cause a pant-bulge.
Fairly expensive.
Long wait because of customizing.
Standard Steel.
There are many companies that make standardized devices out of steel. However, many do not use surgical stainless steel and those models will often corrode and/or cause irritation. Be VERY careful in selecting one of these.
However, if purchase from a reputable company, you can often save a great deal of money because they usually only come in one or two sizes. The nice part is that you can get quite a large variety of styles. Some have urethra catheters (usually removable) just in case you are feeling extra sadistic. Some brands offer some kind of spikes that can be included or not, depending on your mood. Some of these spikes are quite sharp and may even bring a little blood on occasion. So, I would recommend filing them down just enough to remove the sharp tip. They will still be effective.
Pros: Inexpensive.
Many different choices.
Optional catheter.
Cons: Spikes can be too sharp, requiring filing.
Limited sizes available.
Difficult to judge quality of steel.
Usually cause a large pant-bulge.
Airport security.
Silicone Devices.
While silicone is a nice stretchy material, it does not breath well. It fits very snugly and may not prevent an erection as much as a harder material would. However, because of its elasticity, one size will fit everyone. The Birdlocked comes in three size, getting the right one can be a matter of trial and error. In spite of what the manufacturers might have intended, these devices often do cause a bit of pant-bulge, but not as much as their steel or acrylic counterparts. All in all, the silicone devices are not as popular as many other devices. Why, I don’t know. They seems to do well.
Pros: One size always fits.
Smaller pant-bulge.
Cons: No removable spikes.
Not as comfortable as other devices.
Does not breath well.
HolyTrainer.
The material used and the unique design of this device make it ideal for travel. It does NOT require the usual pad lock and the only (tiny) metal piece used for locking the device in place does NOT set off airport metal detectors. If your guy travels a lot, this will be a really big plus! The base ring is also made of the same bio-sourced resin and will form-fit itself your guy’s body the first time he wears it. The HolyTrainer comes in two sizes (like the CB-6000) for those smaller than normal guys. However, not only does the device NOT produce a pant-bulge, it is extremely comfortable to wear even while riding a bicycle. I am told (by a reliable source) that is the most comfortable device on the market. (Believe me, we have tried them all!) While it does not have any provision for adding spikes, it can be worn 24/7 removing it only for a thorough cleaning once a week (recommended for ANY device!)
Pros: Reasonably priced.
Comfortable.
No pant-bulge.
Less apt to break.
No problem when traveling.
48 hour delivery (believe it or not)!
Cons: No spikes.
All in all, the best device I have ever tested! I would strongly recommend the HolyTrainer as your number one choice for a male chastity device. If you heat it in hot water, it can be molded to fit any penis. Put it on your guy, have him take a hot shower, and the device will mold itself to come extremely comfortable.
How to begin…
To prevent chaffing, use a good lubrication on his penis before putting it back on. Most water-based lubes will dry out too quickly. I suggest a oil-based or silicone-based lubricant. (Johnson & Johnson makes a Baby Oil Gel that works well for this.) If chaffing still occurs, you may have to resort to a different chastity device. Once he can get through a day without any problems, try it for twenty-four hours. If all goes well, try three days this time.
Once you have a device that he can comfortably wear day after day, be sure to clean and inspect it (yourself) at least once a week. Taking a shower together is good way to do this, but by all means, not the only way. The device does not need to be removed for cleaning. Use a liberal amount of soap and water to clean his penis every few days. Remember, he probably can’t see it well enough to clean it himself, so you inspect it for him. This can be part of the teasing process as well.
Don’t let him (or anyone else) tell you that he needs to have an orgasm to prevent any kind of disease. He doesn’t! I checked with more than one doctor on that, so trust me. He can easily go for a week, a month, even six months or a year without having an orgasm. When the sperm in the body gets old, it will be released inside the body and will be quickly absorbed by the rest of the body. All this happens without him even knowing about it.
Blue-balls is something that is vastly misunderstood as well. Blue-balls is a condition that occurs when a man gets frequently aroused, but does not have an ejaculation for a long period of time. How long depends on the individual and the amount of arousal. What happens is this: He gets aroused and his body (testicles in particular) begin producing sperm (or fluids for feeding and transporting the sperm (in the case of a vasectomy) along the urethra for eventual ejaculation. If that ejaculation does not occur, there is a build up these things in the body (particularly the balls). This may cause him to feel a slight aching in the groin (or balls) when he gets his next erection (or tries to). It is harmless. It’s all a part of the game.
After a few weeks of not getting have an orgasm, his body will limit the amount of sperm etc. that it produces and the effects of blue-balls will go away. (No more groin pain.) So you see, blue-balls is nothing to be concerned about. In fact, you may take some joy in the fact that he gets them. After all, it’s just another reminder that he is yours and is not allowed to cum without your permission…
Learning to be in charge…
If you had a ten year old child who didn’t always do what you want him/her to do the first time you told them, what would you do? You would tell them again in a firmer tone of voice. Correct? Well, it is really no different here. If you start out being firm, and by that I mean don’t allow him to talk his way out of anything, then you should have no trouble keeping things under control.
You need to adopt a firm stance on things. If you tell him to vacuum the living room carpet and he starts making excuses why he can’t do it, then get firm. Don’t allow him to weasel his way out of it. The firmer you are, especially when just starting out, the less trouble you will have later on. You don’t have to yell or scream. You don’t even have to get angry. Stay calm and insist that he obey you. There are numerous ways to convince him to comply with your every wish, but we will get to that later. For now, just try to be firm. Don’t take “No” for an answer.
When starting out, don’t “ask” him to do anything… Tell him! Don’t say, “Please,” say, “Do it!” Chances are, in the beginning, he will be quite willing to complete any task you set before him, especially if he initially approached you about chastity. You can expect him to defy you in one way or another during the first few weeks. He is testing you. He is testing your resolve and your ability be in charge. Once you realize that is all he is doing, then you will have no trouble enforcing your rules. If you stand your ground, he will back down. After all, you hold the key to his sexual release. And there is no reason you can’t remind him of that.
And that is all there is to being in charge. Set your mind to it, and never back down.
The Reward & Punishment System.
The best way to maintain discipline (in my opinion) is through a good reward program. This doesn’t need to be anything formal (or even written down), but you should keep track so that you can keep a check on yourself, as well as your guy. Yes, you need to keep track of the rewards you give him. Why? Because it is too easy to slip into a complacency in which you don’t do your part. That is, you don’t give him the rewards he deserves. So get yourself a note book, or one of those journals you can use like a diary. Write down EVERY thing he does for you and the reward you gave him for it.
So what is a good reward system? Fondling him through his clothing can be a reward. Letting him please you sexually can be a reward. But the best rewards of all are those times when you take the time to tease him sexually even if he will not get to have an orgasm. If you truly want your relationship to prosper and flourish, you need a good reward system in place. The more attention (yes, sexual attention) you give your guy, the better the system will work. Every man’s goal, not just a chaste man, is to receive sexual gratification. By locking him in chastity, you have removed every other kind of sexual gratification he could get BEFORE you locked him up. Now, the only thing he gets is what you chose to give him. That is why I have always said, “You can’t tease him too much.” He will enjoy it even if all you do is hug him, squeeze his balls or bottom, kiss his cheek and tell him that he is doing a great job.
However, you really should plan on at least one long (sixty minutes or more) tease session a week. You could tease him two or three times a week for thirty minutes each, and that would be even better. The more time you spend each week with him laying naked on the bed while you “play” with his body, the more he will appreciate it, and you. But it’s really all those short little teases you give him on a daily basis that keep him coming back for more. That means he will be better behaved. The minute he thinks you are taking all his hard work for granted, he will begin to doubt your ability to lead. Don’t let that happen!
Now, about those tests… Whenever he slips up, fails to do as you require, or even smarts off, it is time to implement the other half of the Reward/Punishment system. Punishment can range from a simple scolding, to a severe paddling, or anything in between. You can make him stand in the corner, balance a book on his head, or even wear a pair of clothespins on his nipples for ten minutes. It doesn’t matter what the punishment is as long as the severity fits the crime.
One of the best punishments I know of is adding time until his next orgasm. The key to this type of punishment is not placing his orgasm so far in the future that a few days one way or the other won’t matter. If you try to keep his orgasm within thirty days from today, you will be doing well. One way of doing that is to set a date in the near future, say… Two weeks away. Mark it on the calendar with a an “O” so that he can see it and he can count the days. Now each time he does something to displease you, you can cross it off and move it the appropriate number of days. (See the photo above.)
As you can see, as long as you can keep moving the expected release date, he will have something to shoot for, but he may never actually reach that day. It is a form of teasing as well as a form of punishment. Of course, you can give him an orgasm any time you want. Maybe he deserves a reward for going above and beyond what you expected and has earned a big reward. No one says you can’t give him one anytime you like. But the system above allows you to create an ever increasing time between orgasms without him even realizing what is happening.
Yes, you can make up reasons for moving the release date, if you like. For example, “Thursday is not a good day for me, let’s move it to the weekend.” Or, “Your birthday is coming up in a couple of weeks, why don’t we just hold off until then?” Perfectly good reasons to move his release date down the line without moving it too far. I know one woman who actually made her husband wait an entire year using this method of reward and punishment. She simply kept moving the date a few days at a time. Her husband was always less than two weeks away from his release date and never got upset when it got moved. She kept him happy by giving him lots of sexual attention (or taking some for herself) and he just never realized how long it had been since his last orgasm because he was focused on the next one.
There you have it. Life is good. If your man is in chastity, life can be great! All you have to do is take charge and tease the hell out of him, and have fun doing it!
lunes, 26 de marzo de 2018
Declaración de estilo de vida
La traduzco al castellano:I am a self-identified lifestyle submissive male who advocates Female Led Relationships as the smart choice for progressive matriarchal-oriented couples. The natural order of men is to defer and devote themselves to the needs, wishes and whims of the Women they're privileged to serve and obey. And as a submissive Proud, pro-Feminist male I reject any and all patriarchal practices that inhibit Female empowerment and leadership in relationships and society.
Toda una declaración de vida e intenciones.Soy un hombre identificado con el estilo de vida sumiso que defiende las Relaciones Lideradas por Mujeres como la opción inteligente para las parejas progresistas orientadas al estilo matriarcal. El orden natural del hombre defender y dedicarse a las necesidades, deseos y caprichos de las Mujeres a las que tienen el privilegio de servir y obedecer. Y como un hombre sumiso y profeminista rechazo todas y cada una de las prácticas patriarcales que inhiben el empoderamiento y el liderazgo femenino en las relaciones y la sociedad.
sábado, 24 de marzo de 2018
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domingo, 11 de febrero de 2018
The perfect husband
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My husband Tom (33 yo) is the perfect husband. We live in Denver, Colorado, and have two kids, Ray (boy, 6 yo) and Destiny (girl, 3 yo). My name is Hellen and I am 32 years old.
I am the luckiest woman in the world. Raiden support me in everything I do, whatever it is. He encourages me to take new actions, and when things do not go as I expected, he comforts and caresses me.
Since I was very young I was a very bossy and authoritarian girl. I could not stand that nobody would take the opposite. Surely my character is because my mom was exactly the same. But my father and my brother have a kind character. When I was a child I was a tomboy. When I was a girl I was a tomboy, always trying to share games with the boys. They despised me: "You are a girl and you can not play with us."
When I became a beautiful teenager, my problems were of another type. I kept on chasing the boys, but not to play Indians and cowboys, but to play other very different kinds of games, ha, ha, ha. During my childhood I always wore pants, never skirts or dresses. I never cared about my appearance, but now I had to conquer boys and I had to worry about wearing nice clothes that would enhance my natural beauty. I had to learn to put on makeup, although before I had never worried about that kind of thing. It was a very strong change for me.
What I hated most was having to give oral sex to the boys. It was humiliating but I had to do it if I wanted to get my reward.
When I met Thomas in college I felt it was a gift from God. He was opposed to the other guys.
I learned from her that I am now in a Loving Female Led Relationship. This relationship has been phenomenal. My needs are my husbands number one priority. I am able to lead my own life and be independent. I know he is there and supportive if I need him, and encourages me always to make my own decisions and be active in life without him unless I ask for his input. This has helped me to appreciate my husband in so many ways, which adds tons of passion to our relationship since I am authentically grateful for him accepting me as I am. My likes, my dislikes, my strength and empowerment are all important to my husband. It fills his ego to ensure that I am fulfilled, but I never want him to feel taken for granted. I want him to know he is adored and appreciated.
He encourages me to dress sexy, go out with friends, have drinks and go dancing without him, while he watches the kids. He is also the best father. He never asks questions or feels jealous, even when I ask him if he ever is. He tells me, all those men can look all they want, but I know who my wife is coming home to. With that encouragement and trust who would ever want to be so silly to not appreciate such a man, a man with so much confidence and passion for his wife? It makes me grateful and so much more in love with him.
My husband is soft spoken, gentle, and super passionate. He listens to me when I speak, never has he raised his voice, but lets me vent. He doesn’t mind if I ask him to cook tonight, clean the house or take over the care of the kids. He’s a good man with a heart of gold and thrives on my happiness, and knows I think very highly of him as a person. If more men were like my husband there would be a lot more peace in the world.
When we got married, we first lived in a fairly inexpensive apartment, but when we saved a little money, I decided that we would buy a flat. I found an apartment near my work, but very far from his. When I told her that we were going to buy a flat and I showed her the publicity and the situation, he told me that it's great that I do not have to use the subway anymore and I can walk. Is not a man like that wonderful?
The last subject is sex. I have ordered him never to ask me for sex. I always take the initiative. And with regard to oral sex, I also ordered him not to ask me ever. However, very occasionally, when I am happy because my work in the office has gone very well, or because it has been a wonderful spring day or for any other reason, I give a very special gift.
Our daughter is still very young, but when she begins to understand things, we will educate her to be like me or like my mom.
When I became a beautiful teenager, my problems were of another type. I kept on chasing the boys, but not to play Indians and cowboys, but to play other very different kinds of games, ha, ha, ha. During my childhood I always wore pants, never skirts or dresses. I never cared about my appearance, but now I had to conquer boys and I had to worry about wearing nice clothes that would enhance my natural beauty. I had to learn to put on makeup, although before I had never worried about that kind of thing. It was a very strong change for me.
What I hated most was having to give oral sex to the boys. It was humiliating but I had to do it if I wanted to get my reward.
When I met Thomas in college I felt it was a gift from God. He was opposed to the other guys.
I learned from her that I am now in a Loving Female Led Relationship. This relationship has been phenomenal. My needs are my husbands number one priority. I am able to lead my own life and be independent. I know he is there and supportive if I need him, and encourages me always to make my own decisions and be active in life without him unless I ask for his input. This has helped me to appreciate my husband in so many ways, which adds tons of passion to our relationship since I am authentically grateful for him accepting me as I am. My likes, my dislikes, my strength and empowerment are all important to my husband. It fills his ego to ensure that I am fulfilled, but I never want him to feel taken for granted. I want him to know he is adored and appreciated.
He encourages me to dress sexy, go out with friends, have drinks and go dancing without him, while he watches the kids. He is also the best father. He never asks questions or feels jealous, even when I ask him if he ever is. He tells me, all those men can look all they want, but I know who my wife is coming home to. With that encouragement and trust who would ever want to be so silly to not appreciate such a man, a man with so much confidence and passion for his wife? It makes me grateful and so much more in love with him.
My husband is soft spoken, gentle, and super passionate. He listens to me when I speak, never has he raised his voice, but lets me vent. He doesn’t mind if I ask him to cook tonight, clean the house or take over the care of the kids. He’s a good man with a heart of gold and thrives on my happiness, and knows I think very highly of him as a person. If more men were like my husband there would be a lot more peace in the world.
When we got married, we first lived in a fairly inexpensive apartment, but when we saved a little money, I decided that we would buy a flat. I found an apartment near my work, but very far from his. When I told her that we were going to buy a flat and I showed her the publicity and the situation, he told me that it's great that I do not have to use the subway anymore and I can walk. Is not a man like that wonderful?
The last subject is sex. I have ordered him never to ask me for sex. I always take the initiative. And with regard to oral sex, I also ordered him not to ask me ever. However, very occasionally, when I am happy because my work in the office has gone very well, or because it has been a wonderful spring day or for any other reason, I give a very special gift.
Our daughter is still very young, but when she begins to understand things, we will educate her to be like me or like my mom.
sábado, 20 de enero de 2018
My First Time Sharing
My First Time Sharing.
My name is Dave, I'm 22, 6', 170. Recently graduated from college, where I roomed for 4 years with my best friend Scott. We had been buddy's since high school, and had seen each other naked or just walking around in our snug white Jockey briefs many, many times. We use to joke about how very similar our bodies were, same height, weight and both with very smooth body's, with just small patches of pubes above our cocks and to be honest, if we didn't score any pussy, we would often openly jerk off together and on occasion suck each other off.
That said, after graduation we both moved back to our home city. Scott moved in with his girlfriend Kathy and they lived about a mile from my apartment. One day Scott called asked me over for lunch, which I gladly accepted. I arrived and we started off with a few drinks and lots of small talk. I had trouble keeping my eyes off of Kathy's great body. About 5'6", around 120 lbs., curly auburn hair. She only wore a tee shirt, which clearly showed her firm tits and nipples and I could see she was not wearing a bra. She was also wearing a pair of very skimpy shorts, which seemed to wedge into to her pussy and ass.
Kathy got up and went to fix lunch and after she left the room I reached into my Jockeys to adjust my hard on, looked up and saw Scott doing the same, only he dropped his jeans and adjusted his stiff cock in his briefs before pulling his jeans back up. We both just sort of smiled at each other, then I said "You have one hot lady, dude". He said "if you're interested, maybe the three of us could share some hot sex together". My mouth dropped open and after I recovered replied "Fuck yes Scott, I'd love to share anything and everything with both of you". He walked over to me, grabbed my stiff cock through my jeans, I did the same to him, and he said "let's have lunch Dave".
Well, we did just that. Kathy had put together a super feast of food and the three of us ate like kings. After lunch we all worked on clearing up things and then went back to the living room. We started on more cocktails and in about an hour we all had a mild buzz going on. The conversation eventually turned to sex and Kathy boldly asked me how my sex life is going. I told her "So-So, that the girl I'd been balling recently relocated so I Jerk Off quite often". I then asked her how her sex life was, she replied "Great! Scott fucks me once or twice a day and I often suck him off, he also told me about the things you two have done and it's cool with me. He also said you have almost identical cocks and large balls, (we do I'm 8 1/2" Scott is 7 1/2" and both have large smooth balls). Would you like to suck and fuck with us?" I looked over to Scott and he had a big grin on his face and gave me a thumb up. Kathy then stood in front of me and pulled her tee shirt off and revealed a great set of tits with great nipples. She than straddled my legs and sat on my lap and we started kissing with our tongues lashing into each other's mouth. I then moved down and started sucking on her great breasts. Scott came over and started kissing her and she rubbed his cock through his jeans.
We broke apart for a moment, all of us breathing heavily. Kathy stood, unzipped her shorts and pulled them off exposing the most beautiful, hairless pussy I've ever seen. I could see her wet clit and moisture on her pussy lips. I reached over and played with her clit, then slipped two fingers into her very moist pussy. I pulled them out, stuck one in my mouth to taste her juice, and then offered the other to Scott, which he sucked on. Kathy then said "Okay guys loose the tee shirts and jeans, and each of you take them off the other one. I peeled off Scott's tee then he did mine, I then knelt and pulled off his jeans and there was that big cock I'd seen before, hard and pointing up to his hip, in his tight white Jockeys, he in turn did the same to me and saw the same. Kathy then giggled and Scott asked her what was so funny. She said "It's amazing, you guys have almost identical bods, except Dave has black hair and your blonde. Okay now take each other’s Jockeys off and you can only use you mouths". It then became clear that she wanted to be in charge, so we complied. Scott went to his knees, slipped his tongue into the leg band of my briefs, caught them with his teeth, and lowered them to my ankles. I then did the same to Scott, stopping once to lick his balls, then bit into the waist band and pulled them down.
Kathy looked at both of us with our bones sticking straight out and sensually licked her lips. She laid down on the floor, spread her legs and said "I need a tongue in my pussy and a cock in my mouth. I immediately dropped down and shoved my head between her legs. Scott went to her face and put his cock into her sweet mouth. I started by sucking on her clit then, spread her pussy lips and shoved my tongue as far as I could into her dripping pussy. She was moaning and squirming then took Scott's cock from her mouth and said "Fuck me Dave, fuck me, I need a cock in me". I gladly obliged and pulled up to her pussy with my cock, rubbed the head up and down her slit, then slowly slipped into her tight and VERY wet pussy. Scott then continued fucking her mouth as I pumped in and out of her, pulling out until only the head of my cock was in then shoving it back into her. I think we could all sense we were getting close to cumming. She took Scott's cock from her mouth and said "I can’t hold back guys I'm cumming". I shoved deep into her and felt her cunt muscles squeeze tightly around my cock. I felt her quiver and discovered she actually squirts when she cums (it was very wet & hot). I started kissing her and then began spewing my load deep into her. Scott was stroking his cock, then he stuck the head of his cock between our lips and shot one of the biggest loads of cum I had ever seen him produce. Kathy and I both greedily shared, then, swallowed his hot cum.
We then, somehow ended up in a triangle. Kathy sucking her pussy juice and my cum off of my cock & balls, me sucking Scott's cock & him eating my cum out of her pussy. We went on to do much more that day & many times after that.
That said, after graduation we both moved back to our home city. Scott moved in with his girlfriend Kathy and they lived about a mile from my apartment. One day Scott called asked me over for lunch, which I gladly accepted. I arrived and we started off with a few drinks and lots of small talk. I had trouble keeping my eyes off of Kathy's great body. About 5'6", around 120 lbs., curly auburn hair. She only wore a tee shirt, which clearly showed her firm tits and nipples and I could see she was not wearing a bra. She was also wearing a pair of very skimpy shorts, which seemed to wedge into to her pussy and ass.
Kathy got up and went to fix lunch and after she left the room I reached into my Jockeys to adjust my hard on, looked up and saw Scott doing the same, only he dropped his jeans and adjusted his stiff cock in his briefs before pulling his jeans back up. We both just sort of smiled at each other, then I said "You have one hot lady, dude". He said "if you're interested, maybe the three of us could share some hot sex together". My mouth dropped open and after I recovered replied "Fuck yes Scott, I'd love to share anything and everything with both of you". He walked over to me, grabbed my stiff cock through my jeans, I did the same to him, and he said "let's have lunch Dave".
Well, we did just that. Kathy had put together a super feast of food and the three of us ate like kings. After lunch we all worked on clearing up things and then went back to the living room. We started on more cocktails and in about an hour we all had a mild buzz going on. The conversation eventually turned to sex and Kathy boldly asked me how my sex life is going. I told her "So-So, that the girl I'd been balling recently relocated so I Jerk Off quite often". I then asked her how her sex life was, she replied "Great! Scott fucks me once or twice a day and I often suck him off, he also told me about the things you two have done and it's cool with me. He also said you have almost identical cocks and large balls, (we do I'm 8 1/2" Scott is 7 1/2" and both have large smooth balls). Would you like to suck and fuck with us?" I looked over to Scott and he had a big grin on his face and gave me a thumb up. Kathy then stood in front of me and pulled her tee shirt off and revealed a great set of tits with great nipples. She than straddled my legs and sat on my lap and we started kissing with our tongues lashing into each other's mouth. I then moved down and started sucking on her great breasts. Scott came over and started kissing her and she rubbed his cock through his jeans.
We broke apart for a moment, all of us breathing heavily. Kathy stood, unzipped her shorts and pulled them off exposing the most beautiful, hairless pussy I've ever seen. I could see her wet clit and moisture on her pussy lips. I reached over and played with her clit, then slipped two fingers into her very moist pussy. I pulled them out, stuck one in my mouth to taste her juice, and then offered the other to Scott, which he sucked on. Kathy then said "Okay guys loose the tee shirts and jeans, and each of you take them off the other one. I peeled off Scott's tee then he did mine, I then knelt and pulled off his jeans and there was that big cock I'd seen before, hard and pointing up to his hip, in his tight white Jockeys, he in turn did the same to me and saw the same. Kathy then giggled and Scott asked her what was so funny. She said "It's amazing, you guys have almost identical bods, except Dave has black hair and your blonde. Okay now take each other’s Jockeys off and you can only use you mouths". It then became clear that she wanted to be in charge, so we complied. Scott went to his knees, slipped his tongue into the leg band of my briefs, caught them with his teeth, and lowered them to my ankles. I then did the same to Scott, stopping once to lick his balls, then bit into the waist band and pulled them down.
Kathy looked at both of us with our bones sticking straight out and sensually licked her lips. She laid down on the floor, spread her legs and said "I need a tongue in my pussy and a cock in my mouth. I immediately dropped down and shoved my head between her legs. Scott went to her face and put his cock into her sweet mouth. I started by sucking on her clit then, spread her pussy lips and shoved my tongue as far as I could into her dripping pussy. She was moaning and squirming then took Scott's cock from her mouth and said "Fuck me Dave, fuck me, I need a cock in me". I gladly obliged and pulled up to her pussy with my cock, rubbed the head up and down her slit, then slowly slipped into her tight and VERY wet pussy. Scott then continued fucking her mouth as I pumped in and out of her, pulling out until only the head of my cock was in then shoving it back into her. I think we could all sense we were getting close to cumming. She took Scott's cock from her mouth and said "I can’t hold back guys I'm cumming". I shoved deep into her and felt her cunt muscles squeeze tightly around my cock. I felt her quiver and discovered she actually squirts when she cums (it was very wet & hot). I started kissing her and then began spewing my load deep into her. Scott was stroking his cock, then he stuck the head of his cock between our lips and shot one of the biggest loads of cum I had ever seen him produce. Kathy and I both greedily shared, then, swallowed his hot cum.
We then, somehow ended up in a triangle. Kathy sucking her pussy juice and my cum off of my cock & balls, me sucking Scott's cock & him eating my cum out of her pussy. We went on to do much more that day & many times after that.
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